How much do we really know about what we know?

I am someone whose go-to line is- ‘I know!’
(Not that I’m making a Monica reference here)

Even when my rational side has charted out graphs based on statistics and logic, I usually end up taking a decision based on the gut feeling (or, what I assume to be a gut feeling- the signs of clarity, I guess)

One of the disadvantages of thinking that you’re one bit too sure about something is the stubbornness of refusing to look elsewhere or reconsider your decision.
(I could only assume that this is mainly an Aquarian trait. But, then again- We are responsible for our actions, and not our sun signs)

Let’s say you’re someone who likes yoga and has been practising it for quite sometime now. (You’ve developed your chi) A friend asks you to join them for a trial boxing session.

If it doesn’t seem aggressive, or intimidating to you, you’ll perhaps do one of the two things:

  1. Agree to try it out, for the heck of it. (Could be fun, right?)
  2. Dismiss the idea altogether (without a second thought)

This depends on whether you like boxing or not.

If you’re one of those people who does a thing due to FOMO, this post is irrelevant to you. (Clearly, you have bigger problems to deal with)

If you haven’t tried boxing all your life, then how could you possibly know whether you like it or not?

It’s merely your perception of boxing that is leading you towards this decision. There is a myriad of things that come into the picture when one needs to excel in boxing. Agility, strength, determination, quickness, accuracy, power, Grit and Guts. If you suck at those, it’s quite obvious that you’d come to hate boxing.

Sure, there’re people who may be good at it, (perhaps on day-one & two. Beginners luck, perhaps) but post the happy-period, its grit, and sweat.

If you played poker at a house party and won every single round, what are the odds that you’d dislike poker the next day?

You would love it because you appeared to be good at it. (Incidental)

But if we consider the same situation in reverse: where you lost miserably at poker. It would clearly make you hate it; until you win again. (A Gambler’s feedback loop)

It’s the gamble of Life, the gamble of choices

Earlier today, I watched psychologist Petter Johansson TED talk on “choice blindness” — a phenomenon where we convince ourselves something is what we want, even when it is not.

(Ironically, perhaps you’d convince yourself that you don’t want to watch this video, whilst watching him prove it to you that- you don’t know what you want.)

Watch it anyway.

The things you think you know, you don’t.

The only thing you can ever be sure of, is that you can’t be sure of anything.

Such a cliche, isn’t it?

Donal Rumsfeld brought up the concept of known knowns, as a response during a defense new briefing

There are known knowns. These are things we know that we know.
There are known unknowns. That is to say, there are things that we know we don’t know
But there are also unknown unknowns. There are things we don’t know we don’t know.

Everything in life is an art of balance- Good and bad; Life and death; Happiness and Sorrow; Love and loss.

When the scales are tipped, chaos sets in. But the chaos always, always returns to its origination, if you just let it.

Say, a war goes on for 4 years. But, for the next 50 years, there’s peace.

You may ask: Even in that calm period, there are bound to be a few internal conflicts. How then, can it be a peaceful period?

Implore then, during the 4 years of war- was there never a moment of peace?

How is that fair?

It’s not fair. But its also not all unfair, is it? One doesn’t exist without the other.

An incident in itself may seem good or bad. But take the complete picture, (regardless of the time frame) it would make sense.

You cannot ignore the existence of one, due to the presence of another.


Trust, but verify:

Prior to accepting something, maintaining a hint of skepticism to question the same, helps you keep an open mind.

Any idea, or theory which you may have already believed, or come across (including this article for that matter) if dissected for the right reasons, is progress.

Imagine, that you read 10 self-help books a year, and accept the anthem it sings with blind faith. (If the reviews say it’s eye-opening, then your eyes must open. Right?)

What good will that do?

I can assure you that the pointers of each book will wage a civil war in your brain, when they contradict each other. (And contradict they will)

When I read a self-help/non-fictional book, (regardless of its popularity and shining reviews) the first time, I try to keep an open mind and accept it wholeheartedly, even if it makes my skin boil.

The second time around, I read it with skepticism. Not just questioning the theory it implies, but also to verify if I agree with it.

If yes, why? If I don’t, then why not?

The reason being: I would know why I believe in something. Questioning it, is equivalent to watering the soil, in order to loosen it up.

How else will you plant ideas in a rigid mind?

So, the next time someone calls out your BS, (and it will happen, my friend. Regardless of how mature/refined you consider yourself to be) instead of trying to build up your defenses and figure out a way to sneak back into comfortable-righteous territory, you will implore the accuracy of the statement and your necessity to alter the mindset.

It is safe to assume that we never know the entirety of a situation, a person, a theory, a problem, or anything.

Let’s start there since it adds a certain volatility to your routine. This may seem unnerving at first: walking with uncertainty.

No one said life was easy. But simple? Perhaps, (if you learn to look at it the right way) but never easy.

Blind faith uproots you in the end anyway. Might as well carry that uncertainty in your hands like the fragile baby bird it is, and wade through life.

[There’s a myriad of avenues I haven’t yet explored, when it comes to ‘Choice Blindness’. More to come, in the future pieces]

Until next time,
The Hippie Soul


Titles win end games. But this one won’t!?

Reverse engineering works on most areas of life.

If you want to understand how Eiffel tower was built, start looking at its very foundation and work your way up.

If you want to learn swimming:
Start by wading through water; learn to hold your breath under water; then try to float; learn to glide;then try to kick, and so on. There’s a technique and a process to learning almost anything. So its only obvious, that one would try to break down the art of writing.

But can you teach someone to write?

What can be taught- What to write?
Or, how to write it?

Look up on the internet for writing advice, and it’ll start raining. Just like in the self-help section, you’ll find all sorts of advice for every logical/illogical problem the human mind could ever perceive.

Half of them are irrelevant, but it’s there.

When it comes to advice, we all are trying to sell our shit out there. We all claim-our shit is the best. 

Watch me. Learn from me. Register on my site. Sign up for my newsletter. Enroll for this course and I’ll change your life in 30 days. Read my so-and-so book on improving your personality.

Sound familiar?

There’re bad solutions out there. Half-assed solutions. Good solutions. Okay-ish solutions.

Someone may have spent all their life on a theory and it still may suck. Someone may have had a eureka moment in 30 minutes and had discovered how to resolve (Oh, I don’t know) Poverty.

Someone may have offered a solution based on what worked for them. Yet another may have done that based on what’d bring them the highest royalty.

Doesn’t mean only one solution works or none works.

Coming back to the point in hand, none of the solutions i came across really worked for me. Or worse, I couldn’t relate to them.
So, there’s a reason why I don’t rely on a ‘technique’ or ‘style’ or ‘process’ of writing.

What ‘makesyou write?

More often than not, the idea is a trigger- as a response to something I read, or watch.
Don’t get me wrong. It isn’t rage, or the impulsiveness to react, which brings forth the chain of thoughts.

Instead, the desire to dwell on them and the need to understand the reasoning behind, the desire to retrospect on our own perception about what why we see things the way we see them, is what it really is.

Good writing is a conversation.

The aim is not to flatter the reader. They our adversaries.

A good writing, challenges what the reader knows, makes them question it, and then tries to win them over.

Sometimes the work of an artist induces a dialogue within you. More often than not, the tone of the former sets in the tone of the latter.

I wouldn’t necessarily call this an ‘inspiration’; but rather a ‘voice’ you cannot easily subdue. (Depending on what you choose to do with it. Either you let it fade away with time, by never acting on it. Or, you learn to channel the energy into something else.
ex: putting pen to paper)

At times, an observation, a thought, an experience, urges you to write. This is where your unique tone sets in.

If you wanna play it with humor; laden with nostalgia; fill with sarcasm; churn philosophy in it; saddle with satire; sprinkle suspense/drama; bring in empathy/boredom
or, simply state fact-by-fact.

The game’s yours- however you choose. (Experiment with one, or all of these things. Why not?)

What do you write about?

A friend once asked me about the genre of my writing, After I’d explained her the plot of my book. (One, I’m yet to complete. It’ll be the project of the millennium, considering the time that has lapsed since I first started working on it)

Unlike books, blogs are multi-dimensional. One has the privilege to write about everything and nothing under the sun. (But we never really make use of it. Do we?)

Now, disregarding my momentary existential crisis over the question; the thing about genres are that, they’re pretty little boxes inside which plots (gigantic-shapeless- ambiguous-plots-like-mine) are stuffed in.

Sure. You can label it – realistic fiction or young adult or something else (Look up the genres and tell me if your head doesn’t start spinning looking at the sets and subsets of categories!) as you see fit.

But its simply the tip of the iceberg. Consider the Harry potter series:

It was a Children’s book, spun off on fantasy. But neither the prologue, nor the titles, or the cover of the book did justice to the worlds that were woven in those pages. They were simply selling points.

Anyone who’d put the philosophers stone back into its shelf (before the book was caught in the whirlwind of fame post the release of  movie) is someone I gravely pity. (including myself)

Imaginations cannot be categorized. At least it won’t be neat.

Genres, Prologues, covers, titles are simply selling points.

Even when you’re not judging the book by a cover, you’re judging the book by what’s on its cover.

Sure! Your choices are simplified, when 10 people have given their reviews about a book.
But, if you’re an old soul who doesn’t get influenced by pop-culture, you’ll know that  talent doesn’t always find popularity.

The Billboard hot 100 list that changes every week is based on sales, radio play and streaming. But how often have you heard a song on the list, that seems overrated? Popularity doesn’t necessarily guarantee quality.

There are artists, bands, writers, actors whose work goes unnoticed by mainstream media- EVERYDAY.

What is a writing style?

I never really understood this question; or the answers that arrive on the analysis of such a question.

The only thing I know is,

What you write and why you write it, almost always trumps how you write it.

When I’d first started working on the ‘project of the millennium’, there was one advice that I’d constantly stumbled upon. Avoid the word ‘said’ (like the plague) in your dialogues. Instead, use words based on the emotion and scenario. Using it constantly, was  (apparently?!) sandpaper to the ears.

Agreed. This became my bible. I spent better parts of my writing hours, using other dialogue words, since I’d moral issues on using ‘said’ even once, in a page.

The only thing that ever came out of it, was- Chronic over-thinking.

Bottom line: If your dialogues are getting crappier by the minute because of investing precious time in deciding what to use instead of ‘said’; Well, you know what to do here.

The best advice, I ever came across is this- When you write; write as though no one is going to read it. Write as though its just for you. But be a motherf***r when you sit down to edit. Cut down everything that does not belong in your piece. Write it word-by-word all over again- Even if you don’t change anything in the end.

At least, you’ll end up with a better understanding of the words that bled out of you.

Because, all through this piece, I kept asking myself- Why?

Why am I writing this?

Neither have I been writing for decades- to offer advice; nor have I had a Eureka moment or a ground breaking discovery in the recent past.

But this little voice whispered in me-

If you label yourself as one type of a writer, or hell- even one type of a person, what good are you to yourself? If you’re walking through life following every direction that is handed to you, how would you ever know the path that you’re capable of carving- all by yourself?

We tell ourselves stories about us. The narrative is always on. Sometimes, we are the victim; Sometimes, the unforgivable villian; Sometimes we aren’t good enough; and at other times nothing is good enough for us. Yet how often do we realize- we are not ANY of these narratives!

For almost a week, I was struggling to write an appropriate ending for this piece. It seemed hard, as though i was answering- what is the point of life? Nothing i wrote, felt right. I had it’s-fine-brush-it-under-the-carpet sort of endings, but they were as good as having none at all.

But at 5.30 a.m., as i was tossing and turning in the sheets- fully awake, but too disappointed to wake up, it hit me.

What did we come up with boxes, categories and labels in the first place?

To make the chaos seem bearable; organized; less painful to rummage through. To make us feel safe. Right?

That’s why we put people in boxes. If we believe that we’ve them figured out; if we believe that we’ve figured the answers to life’s questions, then we’ve nothing to be afraid of. Isn’t that the reason we go to colleges-get degrees, work in meaningless jobs, get into unhappy relationships with all the wrong reasons, buy houses and cars on mortgages and pay them for the rest of our lives and quit on our dreams?

We try all our lives to fit into these boxes, but we never ever really do.

So tell me, what is the point of these boxes when they do nothing but diminish you? What does that make you?

(I could tell you to get a large sledgehammer and beat the crap out of these boxes;  but we’d be straying here)

Maybe that’s the point.

We were never supposed to fit into boxes.

Because, in this wild-fucking-complicated-unpredictable-chaotic-universe, how can you expect that you be any less of that?

How can you?

Why ‘Good enough’ is rather important than ‘Purrfect’

I mean, first of all, what is- Perfect?

I read this FAQ page on Kris Gage’s process of writing.

Any aspiring writers looking for inspiration must check it out (Only if you want to. It is a free country, after all)

Also, before I carry on- if you’re wondering on how to increase the number of your blog followers, I’d like to give you a very insightful piece of information –you’re breathing through the wrong end of the straw!

Which brings me back to the question of the hour.

You may have already ready a gazillion articles on why “perfectionism maybe the doom of you”. But more importantly, what’s perfect according to you, may not seem perfect to someone else.

Can someone else take your perfect and make it better?

(And in my defense, I don’t mean to give you an existential crisis with that question)

I have painted a giant Buddha on a wall in my living room. It was the offspring of insomnia and frustration. Its spectacular, and a work of art. I couldn’t make it any better. But then, there are times when I wonder. Couldn’t I? If someone else had done it, could they make it better? (Uh, I don’t know Dianne. Michelangelo definitely would paint it better. Shakespeare wouldn’t)

So, the point to remember here fellas, is that- there’s no such thing as Perfect.

Lemme rephrase it to you-

There’s no such thing as perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect. 
No such thing as perfect. Perfect. No. Thing. Such. Perfect. No. As. No.Thing. No.

Why? Because you can build a Burj Khalifa, all by yourself (I’ve faith in you!) but even so, one day someone will decide to put a large bronze eagle on top of the thing. And not only will it be taller than the tallest building in the world; it’ll also be better.

It’ll be better than your perfect.

So what are you going to do about it?

Wait until you arrive at a magical eureka moment, when an angel will hammer your head with a Spectastic idea, so that you can get to work like a mad scientist who’s on the way to great greatness?

Yeah! You can do that on a Friday morning after an awful swim practice and downing three cups of Coffee. (I should know!)

Is this piece Perfect? I don’t know Dianne, it’s good enough.

Mad scientist- Peace out!

On being a woman!

From the day she was born, till the day she dies, she serves a purpose.

As a child, she’s the giggling center to her parents, the candy keeper to her siblings.

A perfect wingman to her brother, a partner in crime to her friends.

Whether she’s lost in her own confusions or is knee deep in her sorrows, she can bring a smile to your face on any day!

You have shared your deep dark secrets with her, and have heard the lamest jokes from her!

But, all the same, she’s the one thing on earth that gives “unconditional love” a new meaning.

She could be your best friend, your soulmate, your colleague, your teacher, your neighbour, your cook, your grocer, your doctor, your sister, your daughter, your mother, your cousin, your aunt, your grandmother, your partner or just someone you know!
You cannot define the relationship you have with her, because its not not bound to anything but it means everything!

She has made you feel safe, when she was terrified by her own insecurities. She has bombarded to with PDA’s when you were too awkward for it. She gives you the best advice when you’re broken, but also laughs as you slip and fall, just before giving out her hand to help you up!

She cooks you food, even if the only cuisine she knows is the “2 minute noodles”.

She has helped you complete your assignments and you have copied her answersheets, fearlessly in the exams.

She’s been your anchor, also the whistle blower for ratting you out to your friends or parents. She does this for fun! Surely, you don’t have a lifetime of scars due to it!

She gets lost and confused; she stumbles and falls due to her own decisions; she’s overwhelmed by shopping; and pleased by chocolates and icecreams;
yes, she’s complicated yet she desires simple things from life!

Yes, the laptop she wants as a gift is the red one, and the phone she owns is the white one with a gold button.

She makes wierd wishes before she blows out the candles of her birthday cake, she believes in fairytales or is too cynical about them.

She may be tough as a nut, or is too fragile!

She has a quirky sense of humor, and a terrible taste in choosing people! She makes a fool of herself every once in a while, she goes out of her way to make you happy,
she’s shy yet powerful!

She is a ray of hope and sunshine, but also hides in her dark shell on some days!

She’s everything, yet she sometimes feels like nothing!

She strives to be a better version of herself EVERYDAY!

She’s not meant to be understood, she’s meant to be loved!

She’s a woman!

Take the time to tell her, how splendidly, a fantabulous amazing person she is!

Be it to the person sitting right next to you, as you read this, or to someone who have known and adored for years, or to yourself!

Say it, say it out loud, because she deserves to hear it! TODAY!

Happy women’s day! ♥

Silver Linings

Chapter 01

When was the last time someone asked you, how you knew you’re straight? Or better yet, why were you straight?

When was the last time, an entire society questioned your intentions or morality for liking someone?

When was the last time, you faced discrimination in education, career opportunities, medical treatment, or housing, on the grounds of your identity?

When was the last time, your family or friends called you a freak for being yourself?

Lately, a lot of talks have been flying around, about our lack of tolerance towards certain communities in the society. But the question that boggles my mind is this: Would you rather be tolerated or accepted?

Suhan (Name has been altered for intended purposes) is a 35 year old engineer, living in Bangalore. A Banarasi, whose familial roots stem from Tamilnadu, Suhan identifies himself as a transgender man: a minority within the marginalized LGBTQIA community in India.

Despite the persisting hetero-stereotyping in the society which makes one’s identity crisis, a strenuous affair in itself, Suhan considered himself a boy from his early years. He grew up playing gilli-danda and kanchi-goli, driving auto-rickshaws, and fighting with other boys on the streets. “I never felt like a woman. The stereotypical need of the society, to categorize infants as boys or girls, and dress them and address them accordingly for the rest of their lives, has never made sense to me. It came as a shock to me, growing up, when I realized I wasn’t like the other boys.”

Dressing up in Ganji shirts and shorts, hanging out with the milk and vegetable vendors, or the older boys outside the house, can only makes things worse for a girl born into a conservative family. A tom-boy is widely mocked upon, especially if the woman belongs to the middle class, regardless of the cheesy manner in which Bollywood has employed the term for the macho fuck boy’s benefit; where he “realizes” his feelings for the girl only after the tomboy-to-girly girl transformations (Thus insinuating, that a transformation is ineludible) Exhibit A: Main hoon na; Exhibit B: Kuch Kuch hota hai. (Thank you, Bollywood, for engraving sexism into our society, and resolving our dearth of it.)

Even though the society considers this a phase that wanes off with matters of marriage; the mockery, insults and abuses that follow her like a shadow don’t. Those scars can last a lifetime.

Expecting a girl to be seen in frocks and sarees, asking her to behave in lady-like manners, manipulating anything different into mediocre has been a rule of thumb of the patriarchy. In nature, a flock will attack any bird that is more colorful than the rest. Because being different is seen as a threat. After all, how different are we from animals, right?

As a high-energy child, Suhan knew deep-down that there was something different about him. All of his childhood and most parts of his youth were spent in a pretense to fit in. Distraught with early sexual abuses, Suhan felt lost for over a quarter of his lifetime. “Accepting the fact that I was a transgender and addressing my issues only happened in my early thirties. Until then, I’d lived a choked life. The feeling that I was hiding something from my family made me hate myself further. But I didn’t know whom to look for advice.”

Suhan had experienced sexual abuses, from the age of four. The same hands that showed support had laid the foundation of destruction. “Being different, attracted a lot of attention. I was molested by bhaiyya’s, cousins, uncles, the maid’s husband and her older son. It broke my heart that these father figures were only interested in me, sexually. It neither made sense to me, nor felt right. I didn’t speak up; I didn’t complain. I am ashamed of it. But in my mind, this was a compromise. Else, they wouldn’t talk to me or play with me. The horrifying part was that after a certain time, I think I liked it.”

Suhan was considered a problematic child, in his teens. The scars from his troubled past, coupled with the blackmails and abuses of his older girlfriend threatening to out him to his family, took a drastic toll on his academics and behavior. The people in his life resolved to the easier option of blaming and condemning him when things went south, than understand why. When someone grows to dislike you, even the way you breathe can seem annoying.

“As a 14-15 year old, when everyone in your family gangs up on you to dictate that there’s something wrong with you; you tend to believe it.”

When a child lives the life of an outcast, for no fault of his own; when the friends, family, and teachers in a child’s life, fail to recognize the underlying issue; yet criticizes, corrects and disciplines the child needlessly, how can the child not feel worthless?

“I struggled with my identity around my family. Being the youngest girl, I was my grandmother’s pet. Yet, I felt like a sham. I was betraying them of the truth. But, what could I possibly tell them when I myself didn’t understand why?” In some ways, Suhan was glad that he hadn’t let the cat out of the bag in a time when he was emotionally and financially dependent on the family. He was afraid they would have had him treated.

Alike many trans-men, Suhan initially believed he was a lesbian. It was only after two years of intensive therapy, did he come out to his family as a transgender man. “My sister believed that I was out of my depth. Even when she knew the whole story, she would try to talk me out of it, as though being transgender was a choice. It’s just a phase, she’d said. She was absolutely against the idea of me coming out to our parents. But at the end of the day, family is family. I had to tell them. Whether they chose to accept me, or not, either way, it was okay. So when I’d mustered the courage to come out, I flew out of U.S and met my folks discreetly (without my sister’s knowledge).”

Although his parents didn’t practice physical abuse on Suhan; they simply didn’t want to deal with it, due to the fear of disrupting the family reputation. After months of group-therapy sessions, when they were able to see beyond their deep-seated fears, his parents came around.

“Yet, to convince my sister to refer me by new name was a gargantuan task. Every time I brought it up, she would turn it into a debate. In those periods of my life, it felt as though I was falling into a deep abyss, with no bottom. The one person I wanted to count on didn’t understand me.”

In situations such as these, we only hear about the need for acceptance. But what about forgiveness? Even though, a lot of mistreatment towards the LGBTQIA community is rooted out of fear and ignorance how can we- as a society expect to be forgiven, just because we’ve finally accepted someone; especially when our un-acceptance had put them through years of shame and agony in the first place. Acceptance can only come half-circle; the other half must be forgiveness.

“A few years ago, I’d spoken to an elderly woman, about who I was. I’m not a girl- I’d said. Deep down, I’ve always felt like a boy, although I was born a girl. That’s just the way it is. The old lady neither tried to shame nor did she pass her opinion. She didn’t question me as to why I was- the way I was, or demand any explanations. She didn’t allude it was a phase. Instead, she’d replied- Its okay beta, don’t worry. Live your life the way god intends to, and be happy. And this lady was an illiterate; a villager. She didn’t know what gay, lesbian or transgender was. She hadn’t come across terms such as gender dysphoria, Transphobia, interpersonal relationships, cooperation, stereotyping, discrimination, in her life. But she knew the roots of human existence- compassion. When you have love and compassion for another person, you’ll never question their need for existence, their need for basic rights.”

We want each story to have a beginning, middle, and an end; wrapped up neatly in a bow, so that we can read it and move on with our lives. Our hearts wish for the narration of a tale with a happy ending, as the jigsaw puzzle of a life is put back together, piece by piece, and the picture finally makes sense when the upbeat music starts playing in the background. But real life stories are not made in the chunks of a beginning, middle or an end, although every story will have these, but not in the same order.

The fairy tale of our life is written in the little moments. Oh, those little moments? Yeah they aren’t little, in retrospect. They are the tiny pieces of the jigsaw puzzle, when life chooses to reside in us. Who knows what the big picture is all about, when the future remains an unknown constant. Maybe, we are meant to go about our lives, collecting and celebrating those little moments. After all, who said life is beautiful, only when the picture is complete?

P.S: Suhan hopes to get a sex-reassignment surgery done in the near future, and continues to take each day as it comes.

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The childhood adventures of train travel now remind me of a dark nightmare

28-May-2016: The Udyan express was en-route from Mumbai to Bangalore. Every compartment was brimming with passengers from the initial stop- CST. Within an hour, stowaways and general class commuters hitched every spot available in the nooks and corners of the train. Few cheeky passengers squeezed their way into the already occupied seats of the sleeper class, under a sense of righteousness which is used and abused with the line ‘Thoda adjust karlo’ (Adjust a little)- the unsaid slogan, burned on the back of the minds of every Indian.

Delayed timings, lack of safety for women, revolting toilets, overcrowded compartments, and stowaways- loitering by the passages and open stairs, are probably the five significantly depressing and well-known facts about our popular mode of transport- the Indian railways, which is responsible for the daily commute of 18 million people. It’s also why rail tr`ansport has been made the butt of several jokes.

A month early booking had served me with a last-minute RAC seat, by the door. The likes of which were shared between my mother and I, along with the innumerous strangers who snuck up on the vacant spaces of our 190 cm long berth. The silver lining to the day was that we got the chance to bond with the three families traveling in our compartment, who were kind enough to let us use the upper berths to rest, as it was impossible to stretch our legs in air, amidst the hullaballoo.

Things were mighty fine, until an enormous group of people hoarded our bogey at Dudhani, turning the sleeper class into a general compartment of a Mumbai local train at peak hour. It was 6 in the evening and people hopped onboard as though it were the last train on the planet, whilst they hung onto window railings, door frames and handles- A regular day in the Indian railways.

A family of 20-so Muslims treaded into the fairly breathable environment, after most of the day commuters got off at the next station- Ganagapur. The RAC seat now bore an additional passenger- our upper seat neighbor, who’d stepped down to temporarily offer his berth to a woman from our compartment who was travelling with her daughter, granddaughter, and daughter-in-law: Bhakti. During the two-minute break at the station, he swiftly darted away to grab some food. At which point, a lady in hijab, belonging to the fresh-onboard-gigantic-family, approached the vacant spot next to me. Out of instinct, I patted the seat with an empty bottle cradled in my hand, and plainly informed her that the seat was taken. Imagine those simple words tumult the situation out of hand in the next hour, so much so, that it almost sealed my fate on one of the three: Death, rape or both.

What I’d failed to notice during my honest revelation, was the bulk of a man, towering over me. He apparently was the husband of that woman, who’d somehow perceived my statement as uncouth, insulting, and demeaning. In the next five minutes, whilst he lectured me on how educated, civilized, and well off- he was, and reminded me how people such as himself should be treated, I simply reminded him that I’d merely informed the lady about the availability of the seat. How those words had offended and wounded his flimsy ego- was beyond me.

His eyes grew deeply red; his voice growled over several decibels, and his face appeared threateningly close to exploding. Out of nowhere, the man started barking on me to shut up. I’d had enough of his chauvinism. Yet, carrying on an unpleasant one-sided argument was pointless, as it was clearly a numbers game. Against the 20-so family of the immature meat-sack of a man, I was a twig. Within the fraction of a second, Bhakti jumped to my defense, and growled back at him. His fury had switched towards her, as they fell into a yelling fit. Each demanding the other to shut up, as their faces inched terrifyingly closer- every passing second. The fit ended with the intervention of his family, who frantically pulled him away like a meat sack, when he’d raised his fist at Bhakti- a girl who wasn’t nearly half his size.

The matter turned from bad to craptastically worse, after that exchange. Meat sack sneered at me from the doorway, whilst his ‘brothers’ persuaded me to apologize to his wife- who’d been watching the meaningless back and forth with unfaltering curiosity. The ground breaking argument being: Meat sack was only enraged, because I’d made his wife cry. Yes, yes, seeing an empty bottle and hearing someone say, ‘this seat is taken’, can be quite a traumatic experience. That’s why writers use such dialogues in movies, to make people cry. Apparently, he wouldn’t back down unless someone apologized. Flimsy ego, see? I wasn’t about to grovel and beg for mercy, with no fault of mine.

Whilst all this happened, the train had moved past Gulbarga where his family was supposed to get off. He hadn’t allowed a single soul from his family off the door. Clearly, they didn’t have a choice, since their Klazomaniac was on the loose, plotting his revenge by phoning up his gang-buddies (Rickshaw drivers) to pull me off at the next station. He wanted revenge. He wanted to teach me a lesson. He wanted me to know, what kind of a man he was, and why people should NOT mess with him. His words were loud and clear, backed with the dirty looks that he threw me from the passageway.

I was afraid for myself, yet disgusted by the whole lot of self-proclaimed, civilized bozos. Sadly, education doesn’t guarantee basic human civility. One glance at his wife, and it was clear to me that the nonchalance on her face was an attempt to veil the shame that she felt underneath. She was bound to a man, who terrorized and picked fights with girls half his size; whose acts were nothing but a travesty of his concerns for her. In that very moment, I felt sorry for her, because of what she was married to. There was a chance I could get out of this mess, but she was stuck with it for life. No wife should’ve to live with that.

I apologized to her, clarifying, that my intention wasn’t to insult her. It was the only way to put an end to the charade, considering the fact that I was traveling in a train with my frail mother. Deep down, I knew that if something were to happen to me, there wouldn’t be a lot of people who’d jump to my defense. It is after all a world, where each one fends for oneself.

My apology made no difference to the situation. In turn, it only stroked his ego, further convincing him of his power in the situation. Two armed guards passed us by, which temporarily stifled the situation, and his blatant threats. A second after they’d left, it dawned on me to seek their help. But they were far gone, by then.

I was six feet away from the maniac- plotting my assault right in front of my eyes. The only thing stopping him was the mixed resolve of a few women from his family, who’d blocked his way by the passage, so he couldn’t approach me. This nightmare had gone on for an hour. For an hour- I was afraid I wouldn’t live to see the morning. For an hour- I felt helpless, powerless, and regretful for taking the train in the first place. For the first time in my life, I was furious for being a girl. I was disturbed, to be a part of a pathetic society where the safety of a woman is disposed at the mercy of her assaulter.

A few minutes before the next stop- Shahabad, his mother stood guard in front of me and begged me to quickly close the shutters and windows behind me. Another woman sealed the door beside me. All this to protect me, while the men in his family, forced him out the other door. A mother had to protect an absolute stranger from her own son’s monstrosities; No mother should’ve to face that.

By the time the curtains had fallen, we’d rallied a minister of the state government and a politician of the district on our side (which was futile, as I knew nothing about the freak or his family). I refused to sleep for the rest of the night, aware of the unnerving truth that losing my dignity, freedom and life could come down to just that- an unavailable seat.

‘But thank god. Nothing happened to you’- was the consolation I received, every time I narrated this incident. Do death threats, Verbal assaults, cat-calling, ogling, and rape threats mean nothing? Why are women conditioned to believe that until the man lays a hand on her, every other obnoxious behavior of his can be tolerated and swept under the rug? Why are we okay, being not okay? Why do we adjust and compromise our aspirations, dreams and self-respect for crap-bags? Why is the society worried about women staying in toxic relationships rather than fixing the ones creating the toxicity? Why does the society slut shame women who can stand up for themselves and others?

We’ve been taught and reminded to be careful and alert all our lives. We keep pepper sprays and Swiss knives in our bags to defend ourselves, or clutch onto the keys while returning home late at night, we grow a thick skin to ignore all the lewd comments, wear unfeminine clothes to escape the bawdy looks, mold and break ourselves to fit in- into the ridiculous image that the society has perceived for us, for centuries. There are rules for us: Who should we talk to, and who we shouldn’t talk to. Who can be our friend, what kind of clothes are we allowed to wear, what kind of places can we go to, what kind of things are we allowed to drink, what kind of experiences we’re allowed to have, what time we should get home, what kind of things we’re allowed to speak in front to others. Every bloody double standard in this society is bestowed upon us.

It has been 5317 years, since the first civilization on earth was formed. But how civilized is this society, if almost half the population of this world has to fight and explain their need for equality, every step of the way?

I’d like to meet a woman who has never once faced sexual assault of any kind. If you’re wondering what classifies as one, here’s your poison.

Treat people the way you want to be treated. Perhaps, five thousand years wasn’t enough for that basic principle to evolve.

Ladies! Here’s why y’all should get married by the age of 24!

  1. You’ve probably just graduated. Certainly you understand yourself a lot better than when you’ll do, when you’re, I don’t know- 28, or 41.
  2. It’s easy for your parents to convince you over the following ground breaking theories. Honestly, they’re fool proof.
    1. This-is-the-right-age, it’s good for you. Absolutely. All single men are simply going to vanish if you’re unmarried by the time you’re 28 or 41 or 65.
    2. Sharma uncle’s daughter got married when she was 23. Look how happy she is.
    3. Grandchildren! I mean, there are other ways to do this. But who’s arguing? Adoption. I was suggesting adoption. Don’t get your knickers in a twist!
  3. You haven’t fully explored your sexuality. You could be straight, gay, bi, Demi, Pan sexual, or even asexual. But hey, knowing what you like is so 70’s, right. Why bother?
  4. You’re at the beginning of your career ladder. It would be misogyny to assume that you can’t be a juggler. Personal life, house, husband, family, parents, in-laws, oh and what did I miss? Career. That’s right. Toss it in the air and catch it right back, or don’t. No one is going to send you on a guilt trip.
  5. Your biological clock is going to tick-tick-tick and explode. Late pregnancies are a myth, people. If you don’t believe me, ask Shilpa Shetty, Madhuri Dixit, Aishwarya Rai, or Farah Khan.
  6. No one would tug your cheeks at the next wedding, and shamelessly inform you (let alone ask you) – ‘Agla number tumhara hai beta…’ Bending over, due to social pressure is undeniably, a solid reason to get married.
  7. Traveling solo, playing in a band, getting a tattoo anywhere (anywhere!!) on your body, buzzing off on unplanned treks with your friends, volunteering for the peace corps, spending a year abroad, having wild adventures- we can do all of this, and a lot more, with the permission of…..wait, they’re all going to tell you it’s safe. Self-exploration is, after-all a prevalent job in India, with a 36% reservation, solely for women.
  8. Responsibility to yourself. It means, accepting the ‘behavioral manual for women’ handed out by every other person on the street. The authors are unknown, yet everyone is a contributor. From the sweeper gawking at you, when you’re jogging down the street; to the upstairs aunty who can’t even persuade her own son to return home, without reeking like the entire bar. And do I dare get started on the moral police, or the politicians who’ve found the fool-proof solutions to avoid rapes? People, who’re convinced that they’re a higher breed than women, sure are painfully afraid of feminism. Get married, get married, get married. It’s an automatic solution to all the travesties in life.
  9. Here’s a list of women whose lives have fallen into a swirl of misery, for not being married by the age of 30.
    1. Pooja Dhingra: Achievements? Oh, I don’t know. Best-selling books, innumerable awards, A-list celebrity clients, and a thriving business. How terrible!
    2. Zoya Akhtar: Do the movies Zindagi na milegi dobaara, luck by chance, or Talaash, ring a bell? Why isn’t anyone lecturing her to get married? Call all the aunties.
    3. Priyanka Chopra: I’m not even gonna…
    4. Barkha Dutt: A nomination for Emmy? A first for India. What was it all for? Surely, she should have listened to her parents at twenty-t-h-r-e-e.
    5. Ekta Kapoor: No, we do not watch her movies or long-running serials. Who has time for all that, whilst juggling our family, husband, children, in-laws, house, personal life…. Oh wait, what did I miss again?
    6. Kiran Desai: A winner of Booker prize? How is she ever going to face all that cheek-pulling at the weddings?
    7. Sushmita Sen: Good lord. Being jaw-dropping gorgeous at 41, holding the Miss. Universe tiara, bringing up two daughters all-by-herself, starring in hella movies must be a crime. Someone amend the laws. Her parents must be sighing for grandchildren.
    8. Mindy Kaling, aka, Vera Mindy Chokalingam: Starring in her own show The Mindy project, as well as others such as Ocean’s eleven, A wrinkle in time along with writing best sellers such as Is everyone hanging out without me, Why not me, must be horrendous achievements to bear.
  10. If you’re not yet convinced to get married right away, I might have to call the next door aunty to convince you.

Until next time,

The girl in the green shrug!

    Anything is to be preferred and endured rather than marrying without affection. – Jane Austen

    Build a home

    You know these thoughts and feelings that you keep dismissing out of your mind? They’ll keep coming back to you as time passes by, like haunted spirits on a new moon night. Because you never really gave them a place to stay. You never accepted them because it was unsettling to think about. Yes, someone hurt you and the only known way to move on was to let them go. You walked away from that place,  that person,  that time. You buried your feelings and assumed that until the day you ran into one of those three,  the feelings would never resurface again. 
    But they did. Didn’t they? 

    Everytime you heard or mentioned their name,  a painful feeling ran through your spine, you lost your breath for a split second, a familiar memory crept into your mind in the dark depths of the night. 
    Even when you promised yourself to never think of them again, as time passed by, you occasionally forgot why you made that promise in the first place. 

    You slip. That yearning to see their face, to hear their voice again overrules every cell in your body. 
    A lot of time has Passed now. Maybe they’re different. Maybe things can be different, you think.

    We never shelter the unrequited feelings of our heart- out of embarrassment,  out of pain,  out of fear. No matter how strong the relationship was,  we’ve found ourselves down that one way street, alone- waiting for the other person to see us, acknowledge our feelings and reciprocate them. 
    When we imagine going back to the person, we once walked away from,  what we really hope for,  is to return to the way we expected things to be. What we really want,  is for people to redeem themselves and treat us better. 
    Would you go back, to the same person who treated you in the same crappy way? 

    Build a home for all the feelings that you once shunned away into the cold darkness. 

    And if you still feel that your relationship can be salvaged, then open the door of your heart and let them in.

    Hampi- Remnants of an ancient era (Part 2)

    Our enthusiasm and curiosity to explore Hampi had resulted in sore foot and tardiness the next day, hence we woke up late and started off at noon. If we were aware of the sights that awaited us on the other side of the river, we wouldn’t have slept the previous night out of sheer excitement.


    Patches of paddy fields on one side and large boulders and lakes on the other. If this isn’t heaven, I don’t know what is!

    On the banks of Tungabhadra river, a ferry service is available that can carry 20-30 people (along with a scooter or two) at a time, across the river at a minimal price. Upon reaching the other side, we rented a scooter and rode west, in the search of Sanapur lake. Unsure of the route (Absent-minded too, since we’d forgotten that we lived in the 21st century and Google maps were a thing!), we asked an elderly man walking by the road for directions but he pointed us in the opposite direction. Taking a U-turn, we rode back, hoping to confirm our direction with another local. A cozy looking café caught our eye and all the neurons in my brain screamed “Fooood”. It was a shack, with a board in front that read “Good Music and Home-made Food”. So, we entered the café, forgetting all about Sanapur Lake.

    Now, let me tell you something. All that civilization, architecture and fine art that the Vijayanagara dynasty had built and let go? You won’t catch a whiff of it, once you’ve crossed the river. Which is why, Hippies and foreigners from all over the world prefer to rent huts and shacks on the other side of Hampi.

    The tiny café had a few musical instruments (mostly broken) lying around. To my surprise, there was a finely tuned guitar with all its six strings in place. I picked it up and strummed a few chords that I knew. The aunty who owned the café had busied herself in the kitchen and within 10 minutes, an uncle (who, I presumed was the co-owner of the café) popped inside and sat in our opposite table. He patiently waited a few minutes until I stopped playing the notes and inquired our whereabouts. Once upon a time, he worked in the music industry and played with several groups, for several music directors. He was proud enough to proclaim his love for music but was humble enough to accept that it didn’t end well for him. It reminded me that,

    Talent, is not genius”- a quote from one of my favorite books- Little women.

    On our request he played a few songs, while aunty served us delicious, warm food.


    Dum dum da rum da dum…

    The day got interesting when a man named ‘Gaali’, dressed in a loose cotton kurta and jeans, having shoulder length hair and a dark complexion (mercy of the hot sun), entered the café. Gaali runs a musical instrument shop by the river bank, and jams with the locals and foreigners at sunset point. He mentioned that he had a sliver of opportunity to perform at the Hampi Utsava (I hope he did. It must have been wonderful). He sung a composition of his own, written in the honor of Kannadambe (Mother Karnataka).

    If you ever visit Hampi, spare your evening to watch the sunset jam, where locals and foreigners gather to play music and sing along.

    We bid goodbye to the wonderful trio and made our way to the Anjaneya temple, Anegundi- the birth place of lord Hanuman. A flight of steep stairs (approx 570 steps) takes you to the top of the hill that offers a panoramic view of the landscape. From afar, large boulders appear like tiny pebbles strewn across and acres of paddy fields resemble pieces in a jigsaws puzzle. Later that evening, we took a diversion from the highway and headed to Pampa sarovar (Lakshmi temple)-a world of its own. It’s believed that Shabari, a devotee of Rama had waited for his arrival there. An abundance of Gray Langurs can be found in its vicinity. Unlike its mischievous cousins, these docile-intelligent beings kept to themselves and studied the visitors from a safe distance with a pair of eyes that could probably see through you. In front of the temple is the Pampa sarovar, protected by tall boulders on all three sides.


    Spend a few peaceful moments here and I promise you, you can feel the cracks in your heart mend. (PC: Madhu)

    After spending a few calm, refreshing moments there, we embarked on our journey towards the final destination of the day- The Durga temple which is built on top of a hill, surrounded by giant boulders (I was paranoid the whole time that one of them may collapse downhill and would crush me like a grape). Near the entrance of the temple, is a small cave that remains cool throughout the day. It is believed that Lord Rama once took shelter here. A large tree, whose branches were laden with colorful bundles bearing coconuts (as a token of the devotee’s wish), stood magnificently in front of the temple. Paying our respects to the deity, we headed back, as the ferry service to take us across the river would cease at 5.30.

    Hastily, we returned the rented scooter just in time to catch the last ferry (which was extended to 6 p.m, thanks to the visiting season) and witnessed a spectacular sunset by the river. That same evening, we moved out to Hospet, collected our Luggage and boarded the bus back to Bangalore.

    Until next time,
    The Hippie Soul

    Hampi- Remnants of an ancient era (Part 1)

    The decision to spend a weekend in Hampi was a spontaneous one. On a whim, I asked my bestie to join me on a weekend trip. The destination was vague. She agreed, as she always does! Quickly, I did a little research and the tiny signs pointed me towards Hampi. We left Bangalore the following midnight, and due to some mysterious reason, all of Bangalore’s traffic was accumulated in the Majestic- Yeshwantpur junction. Our mighty bus took 2 hours to cover a km of the toll road. Though our ETA at Hospet was supposedly 6 a.m., we arrived four hours later. (Our driver had chosen an impromptu diversion. Spontaneity- A trait, I DID NOT appreciate in drivers).

    Now, the ideal place to stay while visiting Hampi is the hippie islands, but unaware of it then, I had booked a hotel in Hospet (a half hr ride away from Hampi). After freshening up, we caught a decent brunch at a local hotel in Hospet. An absence of fellow travelers was clearly obvious as the occupants at each table were either men-catching up on old tales or families having a quite meal. And then there was us- two girls, oblivious (at least, we pretended to be) to all the curious looks shot our way.

    An hour later, we found ourselves in Hampi talking to a rickshaw driver who had jumped into our moving bus while it was being parked. He sure was keen on catching a customer, and after a bit of haggling, we agreed for a tour of the city at 500 Bucks (Which, by the way is tad pricey as I later realized). Our auto-driver had sworn to be worthy of the price, or else there was a complete-refund policy (Yeah, right. We all know how that ends).

    We started off with Sasivekalu Ganesha (Translation: Mustard seed Ganesha; only because there was another idol which was fairly larger in size, as compared to this), moving on to Hemakunta hill temple complex- a large expanse bearing many temples, with no idols to worship in them (Emphasizes, why the city is now called Ruins of Hampi) and offers a generous view of the Virupaksha temple and its surroundings.


    For miles and miles, you see rocks, boulders, sculptures and trees that have witnessed the glorious years of Hampi. (PC: Madhu)

    Built on varying leveled platforms, this art of architecture set in stone, with carvings on every inch is simply astonishing. It seemed to me as if the hill stood like a lone soldier, helplessly watching the catastrophe of a war that laid waste to the land, destroying everything familiar. A carefree evening on these hills, in the company of loved ones watching the golden crown of sunset, talking about life, sipping tea was all I wanted at that moment.I vowed to return, determined to capture every bit of the wondrous smithereens in a sketch.


    Even time pauses here for a moment, imploring Hampi to re-tell its story. (PC: Madhu)

    One thing I found in abundance in Hampi, other than the buildings of course, were the brown squirrels, skittering about willy-nilly.


    The Guardian of Hemakunta, savoring his meal- a tasty peanut! (PC: Madhu)

    Then on, we paid a visit to the Shiva temple and the partly-destroyed Ugra Narasimha. The original sculpture had a small figure of Goddess Lakshmi, resting on his lap. It was mutilated when the Mughals raided Vijayanagara Empire in 1565 A.D, also marking its downfall.

    We met a man, who once was a former member of the archaeological committee. Now, an artist who carved out beautiful sculptures out of Soap. He explained that during the restoration, a few features were added to the sculpture (such as the large distinguishable mark on the chest of the sculpture) an addition made to make the idol more stable.

    The second section of the city is the palace ground. One of the major attractions was the Lotus Mahal (a.k.a Chitragani Mahal or Kamal Mahal). A mesmerizing example of the Vijayanagara architecture, built solely to serve the royal ladies of Vijayanagara Empire. The structure was originally surrounded by four Watch towers, of which only three can be seen today.


    Every monument at its best. It’s as if the craftsmen competed against each other and filled every inch with their soul.

    The foundation to a queen’s palace (which was never built) can be found near the entrance. An elegant-long building with beautiful domed chambers that once served as an elephant stable, now was being adorned with lights. The reason being- The infamous Hampi utsav. We were visiting only a few days prior to festival, and hence the city was bustling with foreigners and local tourists, while the major attractions were embellished. A stage was being set up for the performances and plays scheduled for the festival. The air was charged up, as actors rehearsed their roles and carpenters busied about, building wooden platforms and beams. We were lucky enough to catch a glimpse of the forthcoming celebrations of a fabled empire.


    Break time! What’s happening around the world?

    An archaeology museum laid within the same premises- a treasure trove to all the architectural artifacts, relics, coins, tools, miniature paintings, ivory items, copper plates and several other things from the glorious era of the Vijayanagara Empire.

    We then headed out to explore the Pushkarini (temple tank)- an ancient step well, located near the Mahanavami Dibba (a.k.a Dasara Dibba) constructed by King Krishnadevaraya to celebrate his victory over Udayagiri (Modern day-Orissa).Later, our Auto dropped us off at the final location of the tour- Vijaya Vittala temple.

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    One can choose between availing a government facilitated utility vehicle (at a fair price) or taking a good ol’ walk uphill, for about a km to reach the main entrance of the Temple. A ticket bought to enter the palace grounds, also can be used to enter the Royal temple. But, being the goofball that I am, I lost it somewhere on the road and had to buy it again.


    Not the only goofball here! (PC: Me)

    Vijaya Vittala temple is the Taj Mahal of Hampi. The amount of effort, craftsmanship, creativity and art that is poured into every inch of the ensemble is exceptional. The stone chariot is an artistic marvel in itself, and bears a striking resemblance to the stone chariot situated in Konark Sun temple, Orissa (Incidentally, Krishnadevaraya was fascinated by the aforementioned chariot whilst his war against Udayagiri and thus, ordered an establishment of one such chariot in his own empire). The musical pillared temple is yet another marvelous contribution of the Vijayanagara Empire. Among the other structures are the shrine of the Goddess (a.k.a Devi shrine), Maha Mantapa (a.k.a Sabha Mantapa/ congregation hall), Ranga Mantapa, Kalyana Mantapa (marriage hall), Utsava Mantapa (festival hall).  Even in the middle of such loud ambience, I found a moment of tranquility in the Vittala temple, by the closed gates watching a horse graze peacefully. The winds whisked away my thoughts with their stories about distant lands.

    The sunset point, at the Matunga Hill is one of the most sought out places in Hampi. But, we neither had the stamina, nor the will to mount a hill!


    Gateway to heaven. Care to venture? (PC: Madhu)

    On our way out, amongst many children who sold photographs /postcards of Hampi, I met an adorable little boy- Abhi (Abhishek).

    As it was the deepavali weekend, all kids had the week-off, ergo a golden opportunity to earn some extra cash. At every major tourist hub in Hampi, we’ve been pestered by children to buy postcards. (I for one ain’t a fan of it, but a friend of mine- an old soul, loves postcards for souvenirs). Unlike other children, Abhi didn’t badger us. Instead, he politely requested us once, took one look at our camera and before we could respond, uttered bashfully “Okay, thank you. We don’t want it” in an attempt to imitate every other tourist. His quick wit intrigued me, so I struck up a conversation with him, examining the postcards. A moment later, a family walked past us, as Abhi walked along with them. The older woman spoke kindly to him, laying her hand on his shoulder. I watched them walk out of sight; surprised that he would leave behind a stack of postcards in the hands a total stranger. (What if I ran away with it?)

    Few minutes later, he returned with a grim look on his face, stating “She just wanted to feel good about herself by talking to me, but had no interest in the postcards”.

    Smack! Truth slapped on the face.

    I felt sorry for him, but at the same time wanted to convince him that the world is not all black & white!

    As we walked back to Virupaksha temple, vaguely in the route of Kampa- Bhupa’s path- a walk along the rocky, boulder strewn trail by the banks of river Tungabhadra; Abhi opened up about his family. A drunk-abusive father that he resents, a mother-struggling to make ends meet, a sister- who’s quit college and is expected to be married off soon. The society burdens us all with its expectations and here was a boy sharing the burden of his family, trying to earn a little to ease the lives of the living. His dream? To become an engineer one day, move to the city and earn good money. I realized, this is the dream of most children in Karnataka who live in villages or rural areas. Their dreams- our reality. Yet, here we are trying to escape it. I wonder, if it’s the lack of imagination or support that refrains children from dreaming large, colorful, powerful dreams- that means something to them, instead of choosing the regular career path.

    A moment of a beautiful sunset graced us at the banks of Tungabhadra, while fishermen rowing coracle boats made their way home. En route, Abhi pointed out a fascinating spot, one that contained neat piles of stones. Apparently, it is a belief that by doing so, one’s wishes would be granted.


    A castle of wishes! (PC: Madhu)

    We parted ways at the temple. He followed a supposed customer, and I took a tour of the Virupaksha temple. It boasts of a huge elaborate structure with an inner sanctuary, a large courtyard, an open pillared hall, 3 ante chambers, a stable for an elephant- a delightful little creature who accepts coins from your hand with his trunk and in return plants a kiss on your head, as a blessing.

    At night, the monuments of Hampi are lit up in shades of multicolored lights, intensifying the beauty of its intricate carvings. Seated atop the Hemakunta hill, we watched the mystifying dance of the lights on various structures, as the sky full of glowing stars reminded us that this wasn’t a city in ruins, but a testament to remnants of a grand era!


    Abracadabra! (PC: Madhu)

    Until next time,
    The Hippie Soul